Do you consider yourself an introvert?
Or maybe you are in a relationship with someone you consider an introvert?
If you are an introvert like myself, it’s easy to assume the extroverts in life could never understand how we view love. (I for one can relate to this!) Let me give you some insight as to how I view love and relationships. Time to help you extroverts out a bit with deciphering the magical mysterious beings we introverts are!
1. I need quiet time with those I love.
I speak for myself and all introverts when I say that we are quiet, but the voice in our heads is very loud. Sometimes loving me is simply respecting the quiet I need to function. I don’t need the air full of words to feel love. I just need you with me, quietly there allowing us to be authentic. We love to enjoy simple, quiet time together with you by our side.
2. I can step out of our comfort zone for love.
I can stretch and be more extroverted for brief periods of time. I only do so for people who truly mean the world to me. So hypothetically speaking, if I agree to go to a large wedding party with you, I would love if you could balance that gift. The next day I may need time to recharge in solitude afterwards, and having your support for that time will make me more willing to step out of our comfort zone again.
3. I only unlock my heart for the most special of souls.
If I have picked you, I have already determined you’re worth the risk. I have chosen you as one of the few worthy of letting see my inner self. This leaves me vulnerable, but some people are worth that risk.
4. I deeply value listening.
Listening is showing love to me. I consider myself thoughtful before I speak. So if I have expressed something to you, know that it is the 100% truth. I don’t take words lightly. When I communicate something important, know that I’ve spent time beforehand considering my message carefully. Introverts are very good listeners and love to have that same respect returned in kind.
5. As an introvert, I love to know you are happy.
Introverts can agree understands what it’s like for everyone to be happy. I know I am different, or at least I feel different than others. I don’t expect everyone to be just like me, or enjoy the same things. In a relationship, I want to make you happy. I need to know if you are happy with the level of social activities we share, and in the depth that I share ourselves. It is a balance of taking turns giving to each other without giving more than we have. We want to know we are doing our part to meet your needs and that we make you happy.
That’s not so mysterious is it? Introverts are some of the most loyal, supportive, uplifting, peaceful souls among us. For an introvert to have picked you to share life with means you are one amazing person worthy of risking our heart and soul for. Enjoy that honor and enjoy unwrapping layer by layer the depths of the person you love!
If you are an introvert don’t be afraid to communicate fully who you are to your love and what you need. Introvert and extrovert alike we have a lot to learn from each other if we communicate with openness, love and a better understanding of each other.